Dr. Dale Atkins understands your wedding woes and has the perfect sanity-saving solutions for emotional issues, family questions, and fears about the engagement, wedding planning, and future.
Q: Isn't a maid of honor supposed to be a bride's best friend? I certainly thought so, but now, four months before my wedding, I have learned that my maid of honor is saying terrible things about me behind my back. I don't want her in my wedding anymore.
A: Focus first on the positive news: You have four months to deal with this situation, and you don't know for sure that your maid of honor has actually said anything negative about you. Talk to her and learn the truth, and keep in mind that you clearly thought highly enough of this woman to give her the honor of being with you on your wedding day. The sentiment attached to your decision to make her your maid of honor is stronger than any emotion revolving around gossip. Having said that, if you do find that your friend has been saying negative things about you, and may harbor unpleasant thoughts, then you have every right to reconsider her role in your wedding. However, I feel that something has been exaggerated and can be dealt with --after which you can both focus on your wedding.
Dr. Dale Atkins is a professional psychologist and frequent media expert specializing in couple and family relationships. Dr. Dale is also an author with five books to her credit:
Sisters;
Families and Their Hearing Impaired Children;
From the Heart (co-author);
I'm OK, You're My Parents; and the most recently published,
Wedding Sanity Savers (co-author). Currently living in Connecticut with her husband and dog, Dr. Dale has two grown sons and a private practice in New York City.
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