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Is it rude not to invite everybody in your bridal party with a date?

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It’s entirely optional, so you would not be "rude" to forgo dates for them. Although invitations are extended to spouses, fiances, or live-in partners of bridal party members (just as they are for all invited guests), dates for solo attendants are not required. While it would be a nice gesture to include their dates, it’s not always feasible. Base your decision on projections for the size and cost of your wedding, and the composition of your bridal party. If only one or two attendants are single, you might be able to include their guests. It’s up to you.

Peggy Post, our Etiquette Expert and internationally known spokesperson for the Emily Post Institute, answers your questions and provides helpful etiquette advice on everything from attire and invitations, to toasting and receptions.

Mar 16, 2010

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We had an interesting situation w/ our wedding. My oldest sister is still married to her husband, yet, he moved out over 3.5 years ago, as it seems to work for them to be have their own spaces. I don't understand it, but its their lives, not mine. He is her "best friend" by her definition and yet he has not been to one family function since. She was surprised that I did not include a "+1" for her. She would invite him and I did not want their drama to roll into our special day. She wouldn't even be sitting with him at the reception table, as she would be with the bridal party, and then where does he sit? With family that doesn't like him because he left my sister? No way! Gals and guys, its your wedding and if you are paying for it, you get to invite whomever you want and not include who you want. You want that room filled with people who want to share in the joy of the day, not ones that might have a different agenda.

by vlorkowski on Oct 25, 2011