Can I have more than one maid of honor?

You can certainly have two maids of honor, or a maid and matron of honor (if one of your choices is married). If you don’t want to choose between siblings or very close friends, have two principal attendants who can share duties. This arrangement has many practical benefits: if one of your maids of honor lives far away, she may be available to offer advice via telephone, while the other will be able to attend dress fittings and other in-person consultations.

Remember that there are many options for organizing your wedding party, and there is no required number of attendants. It is no longer necessary to have an equal number of bridesmaids and groomsmen/ushers, and brides and grooms can have attendants of the opposite sex. So go ahead, have a maid of honor and an honor attendant!

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