How do you ask someone to be an attendant?

Besides the simple phone call, there are many ways you can pop the question. First, you should make a point of inviting everybody to be in your party at around the same time -- if you invite one person today and another next month, the latter may feel like a "B-list" attendant. You can ask the big question via mail with ready-made "Will you be my bridesmaid?" cards or send handwritten notes. Avoid asking via email, as it seems to diminish the importance of the question.

You should be sure to divulge as much as you can about your wedding plans -- date and time, location, and level of formality -- so the invitees can make an informed decision about whether they are able to participate in your event.

Once you’ve done the asking, give everyone a time frame to say yes or no. And remember, a "no" isn't necessarily a slight. Being a wedding attendant is often expensive and time-consuming. If the answer is "no thanks," trust that there's a good reason.

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