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What Does the Groom Traditionally Pay For?

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As the groom, you (and in some cases, your family) are responsible for certain significant wedding expenses. The greatest of these will probably be the honeymoon. This cost applies if you’ve chosen to go the traditional route of having the bride’s family host the wedding; however, it's not uncommon for both the bride and groom to share the expenses of the wedding. In such a case, their families would also share the cost of the honeymoon. The same conditions apply to the rehearsal dinner, where the bill is often shared. As with all aspects of the wedding, there are no absolute rules (other than showing up). That said, here's a complete list of the expenses traditionally borne by the groom.

The Rehearsal Dinner*Invitations
*Site
*Food
*Drink
*Decor
Rings
*The bride’s engagement ring
*The bride’s wedding ring
Gifts
*A wedding gift for the bride
*Gift for best man
*Gifts for groomsmen
Flowers
*The bride’s bouquet (only in certain parts of the country)
*The bride’s going-away corsage
*Corsages for immediate family members (check with the bride, as she may have this in her floral budget)
*Boutonnieres for groomsmen and ushers
Clothing
*Your own tuxedo, whether you rent or buy
*Ties, gloves, vests/cummerbunds for the attendants if they aren't part of the rental package
Lodging & Transportation
*Your own accommodation
*Accommodations and transportation for out-of-town celebrant if he or she was invited by your family
*Transportation for yourself and your best man to the ceremony
*Transportation and accommodations for your parents
Paperwork
*The marriage license
*Your own medical tests
*The celebrant’s donation or fee
The Honeymoon
*Transportation to the honeymoon destination
*Lodging
*All meals
*All activities

Every couple makes a different decision about how to handle the finances for their wedding. This has been just one set of guidelines that lean toward tradition. Don’t hesitate to discuss the whole topic as a couple to determine the choices that make the most sense for you.

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