Perhaps a better question to ask is, who’s offering to pay for a second wedding? Certainly, it is no faux pas to accept contributions from family members for your second time around. If you’re planning a lavish, traditional celebration, you might need it. Thankfully, small, simple ceremonies for second time brides and grooms are no longer the product of social pressure, but the result of personal preference.
As with much of the etiquette surrounding second marriages, the responsibility of payment has undergone some change. Truly, many previously-married couples do pay for their weddings themselves, but this is by no means a rule of thumb. A first time bride, especially, may have a family who wishes to contribute, or even pay for, her wedding.