It’s official! He (or she) popped the question and now you are engaged. What happens now? If you are like many African-American couples, incorporating your heritage into this special day will be an important facet in your planning process.
But how do you go about determining what to include and what to leave out? Do you wish to have a traditional Yoruban wedding ceremony, complete with a priest? Or maybe you want to honor your ancestors and your homeland with a few touches of heritage? Does the idea of offering libations and symbolism conjure up the picture of your wedding? For some of you, all of the above will apply. In planning any type of wedding, coming up with a “big picture” or general idea will greatly streamline the process of organizing your nuptials.
Take some quiet time with your betrothed and discuss what the two of you would like to see on your wedding day. Make a list of the ideas and imaginings each of you has, along with any other special touches that are important to you. Find out three things, ideas or rituals that would really make your ceremony and celebration sparkle! Use those three ideas to create the “framework” for your wedding picture. Here are some starter questions and ideas to get the ball rolling!
- How important is your heritage in relationship to the wedding?
- What type of cultural elements do you envision for the ceremony and reception?
- Do you wish to have a traditional tribal ceremony or a blending of rituals?
- Will your family and guests participate in the ceremony rituals?
- To what degree do you wish to incorporate your heritage into this event?
Once you’ve had a chance to formulate the answers to these questions, create a schedule that will ensure the progress of your ideas. Include in the schedule adequate time to clearly research the items you’ve come up with. If you are not familiar with the elements of an African-inspired wedding, consider utilizing the talents of a wedding planner or professional who can assist and guide you through the planning process.
To really set the tone for your cultural celebration, consider these ideas to help you express your love for each other and your heritage:
- Create African-inspired stationery (invitations, note cards, etc.) that reflects your theme.
- Send a newsletter to your guests letting them know of your special plans and how they can participate.
- Consider having all of your guests attend your celebration in traditional African attire.
- Commission a designer to create unique outfits for you and your beloved to wear on your special day.
- Create a “Circle of Love” at your ceremony that will join your attendants and guests as one unit.
- Honor your parents, grandparents and other elders with readings, prayers and libations.
- Find a caterer or chef who can create African-flavored cuisine and tailor it to your needs.
- Locate drummers and dancers in your area who can add cultural rhythms to your festivities.
Blending your culture and heritage on this special occasion can only add to the excitement that is already present. When you include your family and friends, your “village” so to speak, then those who are nearest and dearest to you have the unique opportunity to participate in one of the most important and beloved rites of passage in the African community.
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