Peggy Post, our etiquette expert and internationally known spokesperson for the Emily Post Institute, answers your questions and provides helpful etiquette advice on everything from attire and invitations to toasting and receptions.
While there are many variations for today's wedding attire, there are still traditional guidelines for fabrics, lengths, styles, and accessories. The general guidelines run the gamut, with suggestions for weddings ranging from the most informal daytime celebration to a formal evening affair. Many brides these days, however, stray from tradition when it comes to attire.
The style and formality of your bridesmaid dresses should coordinate well with your gown. Bridesmaid dresses are typically the same length as the bride's dress; for evening weddings, it's usually floor-length. One notable exception is an informal wedding held in an informal setting, such as outside.
As for guests, it can be a challenge to determine what to wear. For evening weddings, guests should dress as they would for a nice dinner or event out. Men should wear suits, unless the invitation has requested black tie. Women should choose dresses, skirts, or elegant suits in darker, sophisticated colors and fabrics; lengths vary according to what's in style at that particular time and place. Jewelry can be more elaborate, and women may want to carry a small evening bag rather than a purse.
It's now acceptable for female guests to wear black to weddings, especially in the late afternoon and evening. Black choices, however, should be more ornate than reserved, to give off an air of celebration rather than mourning. Sometimes, adding a little color (vibrant flower pins and scarves work wonderfully for weddings) rounds off the somber look well.
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