This is a tricky one. Whether or not you invite family members you don’t get along with should be based on the circumstances surrounding the rift between you and whether or not you really want to repair things. It’s a sweet gesture to want to invite them and move on, but if you’re not ready to do so, you don’t have to.

Here are four ways to determine the right thing to do:

• Are you angry about something you won’t soon forgive them for?
• Are you fighting over something minor or silly that neither of you cares much about?
• Could your issues with each other cause conflict at the wedding?
• Would you be hurt if they showed up without being ready to make amends?

If you’re ready to forgive, talk to them before sending a wedding invitation. Once things are better between you, let them know that their wedding invitation is in the mail. Remember, though, your wedding day is your special day. If you're not ready to forgive, or you're worried about the person's behavior, don't invite them -- case closed.