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How Much Should You Spend on a Shower Gift?


With few exceptions, what you bring to a shower should match your relationship with the bride and the formality of the shower itself. While bridal showers traditionally include the bridal party and women often buy gifts off the couple's registry, these days, showers can include every woman who has been invited to the wedding and can range from personal showers, where the gifts should be intended for the bride alone, to a more traditional style, where gifts are for the couple.

With that in mind, start with two factors: your relationship to the bride and groom and your entire wedding budget (gifts for the wedding and shower, travel expenses, accommodations while you're at the wedding, etc.).

Traditionally, the focus of gift-giving at a bridal shower is to build up a collection of household items that the couple will need. You may be able to find shower gifts on the couple's registry. However, the invitation or hostess may also specify the shower is "personal," meaning you should bring something that is just for the bride.

The amount of money you spend should vary depending on your relationship to the bride. Pooling your money with a few friends is always an acceptable idea if you'd like to splurge and get the bride something more expensive. And keep in mind that the shower gift should cost less than the wedding gift.

In the end, do what feels right for you, and bring the bride something heartfelt.

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