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Who Pays for the Bride's Bachelorette Party?


When it comes to funding, bachelorette parties usually follow a set formula: all guests attending will usually divvy up the cost between them. This doesn’t necessarily mean that the costs must be split evenly, as not everyone can afford to pitch in the same amount of money. It’s important to gather the bridesmaids and other guests together beforehand to plan out the party and organize everyone’s contribution and responsibilities.

If you're the maid of honor or the one organizing the party, it's best to ask for money well before the actual event as you’re the one expected to make the reservation and any necessary deposits. Add up the prices for all the activities (including hotel, dinner, limo rentals, etc.) and ask each person to pitch in for the bride-to-be. This extra money should be used to cover her food, drinks, and anything extra like a deluxe spa treatment or even taking a mini-shopping spree.

While it's assumed that all of the bride’s costs will be covered at a traditional bachelorette party, destination bachelorette parties may force you to bend the rules since they tend to be a bit pricier. If you and the other bridesmaids can’t afford to completely pay for her trip, consult the bride before committing. You'll be expected to pay for any planned activities once you reach your destination.

If the bridal party can’t afford to throw an over-the-top bachelorette extravaganza, there are still many budget-friendly options. Whether it's a slumber party, a spa day, or even going to karaoke at your favorite local bar, it'll still be an amazing time.

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