Whether you’re having your engagement party a few weeks or even a couple of months after the actual engagement, many of your guests might like to bring a little gift to celebrate. One way to tell them what you’d like (for this party and any other prewedding festivities that may pop up) is to create your registry soon after your engagement. This way, your guests have plenty of choices and time to decide what they’re going to get you.
Engagement Registry: Do or Don’t?
The key here is to not call it an engagement registry. You’re better off creating one single registry that your guests can use for all those surprise bridal showers or bridal luncheons. Our suggestion: Do this as soon as you get engaged. It’ll make things easier on you and your guests; plus, it’s a great way for you and your fiancé to spend a little private time choosing what you need for your home. And, if you don’t already live together, it’s the perfect opportunity to decode your personal couple style.
Which Items Should We Add First?
Gone are the days where luxury china and pricy blenders ruled supreme. Today’s registries offer endless opportunities for couples to suggest gifts that they’d really like. Whether it’s a honeymoon registry or a big-ticket item like a flat-screen television, you’re welcome to add whatever you wish. However, know that you’re more likely to receive smaller gifts for your engagement party and other prewedding events.
Start off by limiting your registry to the basics. If you’re a great cook or you’re looking to get a little more kitchen time in once you’re married, opt for everyday dishes, glasses and barware. Did you just buy a home or does your apartment need a style revamp? Register for décor items like throw pillows, rugs or pictures frames for your wedding shots.
How Do We Tell Guests?
The same wedding registry rule applies: Don’t include your registry information in your engagement party or wedding invitations! When it comes to your engagement party, etiquette dictates that guests aren’t required to bring a gift. Let them decide on their own if they’d like to surprise you with one. What’s the best way to inform your friends and family that you’ve registered? Add your registry information to your wedding website or ask that the host or hostess share it via word of mouth.
Tip: Before you hit the store and grab a scanner, make sure you clearly understand your store’s return policy. With the current state of the economy, many luxe retailers are facing a tough financial road, and you want to ensure that you’re protected in case of bankruptcy.
-- Tia Albright
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